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I don't even know what to title this post...

And I don't promise it will be well written or well thought out...

I simply need to say that it pains me as I watch amazing, thoughtful, compassionate, kind people define themselves according to what "good Christian people" have told them is right or true.

Why does one person feel the need to tell another that because she wonders she is not a Christian?

Why does one person feel the need to tell another that because he questions he is going to hell?

Why does one person feel the need to tell another that because her answers are different than his she is wrong?

Why do so many feel the need to be so certain, to be so right, and in the process to be so destructive?

Why do so many people seem to be so scared to live in the gray area?

And how do I raise my children in the midst of this all too usual rhetoric to be kind and caring, compassionate and accepting, thoughtful and loving, open minded and encouraging?